A Letter of Love to You My Dear Friend

I see you. I hear you. I love you.

The Weight of “never being enough”

That my friend is your fear of never being enough. The chain attached to your ankle very early in life — before you even remember. Something from your world left you with the deep message that you were bad. Wrong. Sinful. Never enough without someone rescuing you.

Childhood Pain

Now — let’s look at that other weight you have been lugging around. Oh yes…. The wound of your mother. She hurt you didn’t she? She said some terrible things, maybe didn’t take care of you how you think a mother “should.” It’s easy to judge. It’s what that ball and chain of never being enough taught you to do — it told you no one was ever enough so you had to prove that your mother was never enough too. Her actions made it easy to blame, judge, and criticize.

It’s all within your power to do it for yourself. You are an adult now. Not a child. You have the ability to love, nurture, encourage and show up for yourself and BE your own biggest fan. Stop seeking it from your friend, partner, or co-worker.

YOU are the answer to the mother-size hole in your heart. Only YOU can tenderly mother yourself back to true well-being.

The Wound of Love

Let’s look at that next pack on your back. The love of your life…oh where is that perfect partner? Instead, you get the complainer, the selfish, and the inconsistent.

The “Secret” Shame… too dangerous for words

Now…there is one more weight so firmly melded to your back it’s like the flesh and metal are entwined as one. It’s a story so deeply rooted in you that it truly does look like a part of you. It’s a weight for your eyes only. I’m guessing you know what it is already.

Why?

Now I hear you say…this is super hard work, you have asked me to look at things that don’t feel comfortable to look at, to question what seems unquestionable. No doubt there will be some emotional pain along the way as you release these “parts” of you that never really were.

Liberation invites in joy that is constant. Peace that never leaves.

Instead of measuring how Ok you are by what’s happening around you — you are always OK no matter what happens around you.

The Result is So Worth It

When you lighten your energetic load amazing things happen. The people around you begin making different choices (maybe because of your example, not expectation) or they fade away because their role as a teacher is no longer needed.

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Transformational coach; NLP Practitioner at Transcending Limits LLC. Vicki inspires all to live Unsilenced Lives through healing and connection.

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Vicki Haddock

Transformational coach; NLP Practitioner at Transcending Limits LLC. Vicki inspires all to live Unsilenced Lives through healing and connection.